The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

Yevgeny Lebedenko
23.10.2015

The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

The crisis of 40 years in men does not bypass the side of almost any representative of the stronger sex. The only difference is the peculiarities of its course. Today in this article we will try to figure out how to cope with the crisis of 40 years in men and save the family.

The crisis of 40 years in men: behavior patterns

To date, there are 4 models of the course of the crisis, each of which has its own characteristics. Depending on this, you need to behave differently.

The crisis of 40 years in men 

Full implementation

In this case, the middle age crisis is almost imperceptible, since the main goals and desires of the man are achieved. He gets bored, so you need to help him achieve new goals, push for new discoveries. If it is possible - to participate in all the projects of the beloved. It will unite you even more.

Pseudo development

In this case, outwardly, the man is calm and it may seem that he is in control.In fact, inside he feels devastation, a dead end, or that he is tired of everything. He can recoup on you, but you do not understand the reasons and are nervous, you can not forgive the offense. These signs must be traced and must help. If you do not cope, a few sessions with a competent psychologist will correct the situation.

Confusion

A man feels that everything is being destroyed. He cannot meet the requirements that others make to him, and at the same time he did not satisfy his own desires and needs. And this may adversely affect the course of the crisis. It can be both a temporary phenomenon and the beginning of a black band in a man’s life.

Confusion

Dispossessed by fate

For most of his life, the man was unhappy and could not solve the problems of the crisis on his own. This condition arises due to the fact that the man does not meet the standards that are accepted in society: the man is the breadwinner, the man is the protector. The feeling of inferiority does not allow a man to fulfill his dreams and desires, which further aggravates the situation.

In order for the crisis of 40 years for men to pass as imperceptibly as possible and “painlessly” both for him and his relatives, maximum “emotional flexibility” is necessary.In addition, spiritual flexibility is needed. In people of mature air, the so-called “hardening” of views and interests occurs.

Dispossessed by fate

This can lead to the fact that a person closes from new ideas and solutions. And this “closeness” must be overcome, otherwise it will lead to intolerance and fanaticism.

How to help a man and keep the family?

Statistics show that it is during the middle age crisis that the most divorces occur. And to help a man overcome this milestone as painlessly as possible and, thus, to preserve his family is the task of a real woman.

How to help a man

Before the onset of the 40th anniversary, a man conducts a reassessment of values, an analysis of his achievements and successes. If what he wanted to achieve is not achieved, he can feel the devastation. How to fill this void? One of the easiest ways is to start a relationship with a young girl who will admire and learn from life experience.

It should be noted that not only losers, but also accomplished men, who have a chance to find a young, pretty girl even more because of their solvency, give birth to a mistress.A man wants admiration, which can not give him a wife who has lived with him for many years.

How to behave a woman in this situation?

How to help your man and keep warm family relationships?

  1. Do not control your husband too much. If earlier he calmly reacted to your calls during gatherings with friends, now he can get angry.
  2. Try to genuinely admire him and as often as possible. He must feel that his woman believes and appreciates him in every situation.
  3. Do not forget about your appearance. A man is pleased to see a well-groomed and smiling wife nearby. Try to dress femininely, elegantly and stylishly. The less you complain about health, the better.
  4. If in work you are more successful than your husband and earn more, then you should not remind him about it. In addition, do not allow relatives to speak condescendingly about him.
  5. If you suspect that your husband made a mistress, you should not immediately start a scandal and disassembly. In this case, you will be able to keep the family, since, basically, at this age, men start temporary intrigues, not going to leave the family. And your tantrums and scandals can ruin everything.

How to help a man in crisis

Almost every family faces a crisis of men in 40 years. But if you love your man and want to help him survive this period as painlessly as possible, we advise you to prepare yourself morally and have patience for this time.


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  • The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

    The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

    The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

    The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

    The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

    The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

    The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

    The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

    The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

    The crisis of 40 years in men - how to cope on their own

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