5 factors that determine the attractiveness of a person
According to science, five main factors determine our attractiveness in the eyes of the opposite sex. Here they are:
Sense of humor
A good sense of humor undoubtedly attracts both men and women. However, as it turns out, representatives of opposite sexes put a different meaning into this concept.
Studies show that women tend to think that men who are able to make them laugh are considered “holders of a good sense of humor”. And men, by contrast, consider the ability to laugh at their jokes as an indicator of a sense of humor in women.
Why does a man who jokes a lot (and successfully) seems more sexy to women? In the course of scientific research, it turned out that dependence is indirect here: a sense of humor is associated with high intelligence, and intelligence - with sexuality.
Researchers Jill Greengrass and Jeffrey Miller conducted an experiment with 400 university students and found outthat the general level of intellectual development and the level of verbal intelligence are directly related to the ability to invent acuity (in the experiment, these were cartoons signatures). And the ability to joke, in turn, is related to the success that a student enjoys with the opposite sex. Meanwhile, the ability to generate jokes among men was higher than that of women, experts attribute this to the male need to provide themselves with the largest possible choice of potential partners.
In other words, it happened in the course of evolution that when a man needed to demonstrate his remarkable intellectual potential, the joke was the easiest and most unobtrusive way to do it (well, don’t come on a date with an IQ test or an algebra book of problems) . The greater the number of women so charming, the greater the choice of potential partners to continue the race.
Women who did not laugh at jokes were apparently excluded from the list of candidates. That is, the task of the fair sex was to assess the mental abilities of the intended partner, in order to ensure their offspring with good genes.
So men - exercise in wit, women - laugh more if you want to make an impression.
Demonstration of interest
Want to win someone's attention? First of all, make this person notice your special location for him / her.
Relationship specialist Dr. Aaron explains this phenomenon as follows: “If you ask people about how they fell in love, 90 percent say that the main factor was“ discovery ”that the other person is very good with them.”
This phenomenon, paradoxically, serves as proof of the effectiveness of the “game of inaccessibility”.
How to play this game? Very simple:
Inspire the person you are interested in, that you, in general, are unattainable and unapproachable, but ... it is with him (or with her) that communication gives you incredible pleasure.
Words words words
Plain chatter about anything with the person you are interested in is not a good idea. According to science, the subject matter in this case is of paramount importance.
Stony Brooke, a psychologist at the University of New York, has studied the formation of romantic ties between people for many years and found a surprisingly effective way to bring together people unfamiliar to each other in just one hour (!).That is, he managed to achieve results in an hour, which usually take weeks, months, and even years. He compiled a list of 36 questions and asked the experiment participants to answer each other during this hour. That’s all.
Sometimes, during this hour, bonds were formed stronger than friendships that have been proven for decades. It turned out that the exchange of emotionally colored personal information allows you to establish strong interpersonal relationships in record time.
However, if the relationship already has some kind of history, then several other mechanisms work here. For example, if a woman is already passionate about a man, she, in most cases, is completely unimportant what kind of nonsense he carries.
With character traits, things are much more complicated.
On the one hand, honest, respectable and easy-to-communicate people become good spouses and parents. On the other - flighty, intractable and frivolous have greater sexual attractiveness.
The thing is that, again, according to the results of scientific research, the former focus on the “quality” of the future partner, while the latter put on “quantity”.
In the course of the study, in which 545 people took part, it turned out that conflicting and not very honest men tend to acquire as many romantic relationships as possible. Moreover, this phenomenon is intercultural in nature - the participants in the experiment represented 10 different regions of the planet. That is, the inability to establish long-term relationships conflict people subconsciously compensate for a large number of partners, in the attraction of which they are constantly improving.
How we feel in his / her presence
Studies show that we, in fact, do not fall in love with another person - we fall in love with the feelings that we experience alongside this person.
This is the so-called “emotional transference” phenomenon: we are far from always aware of what exactly awakens certain emotions in us, but we know how to establish associative connections.
If, for example, you are frightened of something, then your brain can confuse everything and interpret the heart palpitations and sweaty palms as a sign that you were so excited by a person who happened to be nearby.
Consequently, if you decide to start a romantic relationship with someone, drag the subject of your interest in the movie - to some horror movie terrible.The worse it is to her / him, the more attractive your image will be imprinted in her / his memory.
A strong emotional shock can lead a person to romantic manifestations, for example, to awaken in him a sudden desire to kiss his “ally”.
True, there is a small nuance - this trick will work only if a person already likes you - just a little.
Understanding these mechanisms is also very helpful in saving dying out relationships and may well help prevent divorce.
Love can be revived, if you jointly experience some new sensations, the stronger, the better - at least a ride on a roller coaster.
BONUS: Love at first sight
Studies show that such a concept as “love at first sight” really exists.
The author of the book Love at First Sight, Dr. E. Nomann, conducted a study involving 1,500 people of different races, nationalities and levels of education. He came to the conclusion that love at first sight is a fairly common phenomenon. Moreover, according to the findings of Dr. Nomann, if a person believes in the existence of love at first sight, his chances of meeting such love are approximately 60 percent.
As a result of his work, Nomann concluded:
Nearly two thirds of the population believes in love at first sight.
More than half of those who believe experience this experience.
Fifty-five percent of those experiencing love at first sight marry the object of their love.
Three-quarters of those married for love at first sight continue to live in a marriage for a lifetime.